What Do You Do When You Don’t Feel Appreciated in Your Marriage?

Marriages begin to lose their charm with time, and it is up to the partners to keep the trust, understanding, and romance alive. Not all partners know or are interested in doing this. Some think of marriages as a pact where the other person now has to put up with their behavior, no matter how problematic it gets. Often, it happens that one person in the marriage begins to feel unappreciated for their efforts. They then begin to rethink their marriage and if it is a good idea for them to continue to stay in that marriage. Below, we tell you how you should deal with not feeling adequately appreciated in your marriage –

• Don’t beat yourself down – If you are unhappy because your partner is devaluing your efforts in sustaining the marital relationship, you are not unfair to him/her. In fact, if you hadn’t been addressing the issue, you would have been unfair to yourself.
• Communicate with your partner – Communication is key to any relationship. Your partner needs to be on the same page with you. For them to find a solution to your problem, they will need to learn that such a problem exists. Be open and honest about how you feel and let them know ways in which they could approach to redress your grievances.
• Don’t regret your marriage – Even if you conclude that your marriage will not work out in the future, don’t regret entering the marriage. Think of it as having been a learning experience. By encountering a situation like this, you got the first-hand perspective of the issues that can crop up in a marriage. The perspective obtained will help you in your later relationships, and you will be more aware of the options you have besides marriage.