How to Respond During Those Tough Conversations
Ever have that feeling that you are just coasting and not sure what you are supposed to be doing? Like you sit and think “Is this REALLY it? Is this all that there is in marriage?”. A few weeks ago Marqus and I had a tough conversation where we let out some feelings and emotions that we had been holding on to as to not create a negative environment or hurt the others feelings not taking into account that by NOT talking about it we had already done so. Within this conversation we had to pull off some band-aids and carefully choose our wording. As we all know it’s not always what you say but how you say it. I’ve always been a person that tries to avoid confrontation (again due to past trauma) and try to avoid it at all cost. The longer that I am married and the more vulnerable I become with Marqus has made this a little easier. I had to understand that there are going to be times that something is discussed and it might not always make me feel good but it is for my good. Almost like our relationship with Christ. When these tough conversations come from a place of love they are meant to grow us, not hurt us. It’s a hard page to turn in your life when most of the criticism that you received in your life was not constructive to then try to listen to someone tell you what they are seeing in you. Just remember that you and your spouse are a team looking out for each other and your blindspots. Work together, listen to each other, have those tough conversations, be vulnerable and most of all grow together.