People who grow up Christian do so being preached that premarital sex is taboo and a sin. So, when they do get married, they still see sex as profane and find it difficult to adjust to the fact that they can now sinlessly indulge in sexual activities. The Bible forbids premarital sex but glorifies the sexual union between a man and his wife. It describes this union as not only desirable but necessary for the fulfillment of the marital relationship. God deems sex to be a procreative and pleasurable activity to be enjoyed by two people in a marriage.
However, this sudden freeing up of the constraints that were placed on an individual’s sexual life is novel to them, and they are at a loss as to how to proceed. Most of them haven’t explored their sexualities by then and have been made to feel guilty for having physical needs. They’ve become so used to suppressing their physical desires that being allowed to feel them now leaves them confused.
So, what do you do? Sex is an integral part of marriage. To have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with your spouse, you need to be able to meet their needs – both physical and emotional. Don’t shirk away from having sex. If you feel troubled by the prospect of having sex – talk it out with your significant other. Share your worries and insecurities. It will only make you more intimate.
Sex between married people is beautiful and should not be compromised upon. If you’ve been unable to derive guilt-free pleasure for being sexual when you were single, let the guilt go. You’re mentally and spiritually committed to another person now, and there is no reason why you shouldn’t be physical intimate with him/her.